Self Talk

The way we talk to ourselves is important.

Self love is a very important part of our healing journey. How we treat ourselves is everything. It all starts with you. From how you see yourself, trusting yourself. Everything is a mirror to us.  

I think so many of us feel humble and we're afraid to be vain. I know I was. And really never gave myself much credit. Especially after going through traumas. Traumas or abuse of any kind can bring down your self esteem and make you feel less than. Sometimes it feels like your power was taken away. And we have to build everything back up. How you view yourself is so important because that is how others will see you! It sounds funny at first to tell yourself how much you care about yourself or love yourself. But it's just like telling a significant other or friend. Sometimes we just need a little reassurance. Even holding our own hand. Especially when we feel like we have been let down by so many other people in life. That is why when healing, it is good to do it without having a significant other, if possible. So that way you can fully work on yourself.  

Self love affirmations put us back in the mindset of, “yes I am deserving and worthy and deserve a good life!” This is the powerful force behind the law of attraction. It is hard to attract things if we don't feel worthy. Sometimes we do not even realize that we feel unworthy. Because the unworthiness is hidden in our subconscious. A good way to spot it is who are you attracting in your life or what type of situations? 

Another way is our dreams. When we sleep, we can finally say or do whatever we want. A lot can come out in our dreams. Especially what is hidden in the subconscious. Carl Jung has many books on this topic. He suggests having a journal by the bed. Our dreams are always talking to us, we just have to listen!

YouTube has a wide array of self love affirmations and meditations. It takes 30 days to learn a new habit. By listening to self love affirmations on a daily basis, you will start getting used to talking better to yourself. It's things sometimes we don't even realize that we say, maybe we only do it every now and then. “If only I did this or that. Or my hair is this or body is that.” 

Look at yourself with loving eyes, just like you would look at a partner. When you do this enough, your self esteem will lift and so will your confidence. Another thing Is to use the loving words of others. And if you can't do that, don't even mention them. It's really a waste of time and energy. Not to mention our brain can't decipher when we are talking bad of someone. It will think we are saying this of ourselves. Is it really worth it anyways to get upset? I've been there. I know what it is like to be upset over someone. But I have learned that gives our power away. 

I refuse to do that anymore.

KellyMaida